Marriage reconstructed on the road to forgiveness…

Married October 1, 2011 and was ready to file for a divorce by January 1, 2012. The first year of our marriage was spent living in separation. Divorces are painful, difficult and complicated, a divorce with a child involve is WAR.

God used this experience to teach me lessons that I will never forget, he tore our marriage to build it back it up with substance because we started on a foundation that was built on sand; doubts, hurt, pain from the past that rolled into our future, mistrust and insecurity which led to not being able to forgive past mistakes which blocks vulnerability and intimacy with each other.

Once I was hurt again by a past mistake, I shut down and harden my heart the very thing God asks us not to do, once I made up my mind that I had enough I shut out anything and anyone who told me anything other than to go through with my divorce.
After a year of struggle to get my divorce final, I was sitting in my living room one night when it came heavy on my heart to ask God what he wanted me to do and was he in agreement with my divorce and from that night on he sent me the answers each day it was like stop signs hitting me in the face how he responded to that question, Lol…he wanted me to work out my marriage and because that’s not what I wanted I started getting obsessed with my divorce me final as soon as possible but each time he would put a fork in the road to stop it and I finally opened my heart to The Lord and ask him to guide me in the way he’ll have me go and that he did. The first step was actually allow myself to be vulnerable enough to have a conversation with my husband and let him know the boundaries that will be in place and the steps that we would have to take in order to start over and by doing so we signed up for marriage counseling, this helped us to clearly communicate with understanding like never before which brought us to the realization that in order to build a strong foundation we had to first forgive each other and then Christ will do the rest. The counselor was only meant to push us in the right direction but not to be permanent. None should be given the middle man position in a marriage but Christ. That’s why a counselor should only be used as a start, a quick guide and giving Jesus his position as the third strand in the marriage.
It has been six months since my husband and i reunited and each day we take baby steps sometimes leaps and hurdles. One thing that’s for sure is that as long as Christ is first in both our lives we’ll keep progressing. With any relationship forgiveness is very important and has to be given often for the survival of that relationship, just think about how many times in one day God has to forgive us.

Signed Tulips.

For 26yrs God has kept me, mold me and held me..Glory be to God😊😍

This weekend I’ve been celebrating my bday in Miami and I had a blast. Private helicopter tour, swimming with dolphins, holding baby gators and eating great vegetarian food. All things I had a fear of doing, yet through Christ my biggest lesson this year is actually believing that I can do absolutely all things through Christ who gives me strength and so that exactly how I’ve overcome all these fears I had. Plus Christ doesn’t embed in us a spirit of fear, but that of a sound mind. Ended last night at Joel Osteen Night of Hope and left feeling so inspired. I worship all the way home and began my 26th bday in worship and more closer to him than ever. I truly am incredibly grateful for God taking my story and making it bring glory to his name. For taking my shame and making it victorious. My mere birth was a miracle. I’ve learnt to forgive those who’ve hurt me along the way and forgive myself for hurting others. I’ve let go of the past and I’m holding on tight to the future. The joy of the Lord is my strength. Lord you’ve held my hands, carried me when I became too weak and made me your child from day one. I dedicate my entire life to you and it’s completely change me. I’m a different woman now because of your grace. You’ve took the worst of me and gave the best to me and with all I am, I’ll live to worship you. I praise you in advance for an abundant life to serve and honor you. Thanks for another incredible year of service to you. Thanks for blessing me with an incredible husband whose taken up his cross and his role has a husband and whose exceeded my expectations of what marriage would be when lived through you. All glory be to God.
Signed Butterfly

Friends FIRST!

So I met someone recently and the connection is so amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!….I mean any and everything I would want in a partner. He’s a gentleman, has the utmost respect for me and treats me nothing less than a Queen. I had to pinch myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming, Lol 🙂 But it was in that moment I had to catch myself and realize that I can live in the moment, and learn somethings about myself and about what it is I expect from my next relationship. This has been a great friendship and I strongly believe that God placed him in my life at the right moment and even if it doesn’t turn out to be anything more than that. I can truly say it wouldn’t really make a difference because, in him I see  God’s way of helping me to see that the possibilities of finding someone who is going to love me unconditional and love my daughter just the same, is out there. I wouldn’t doubt it for a second, after experiencing this friendship. Choosing to be friends first allows us to feel no pressure to impress each other and we can be just as goofy and childish as we want to be at times or just seeing how much the person really sparks your interest. Finding a man these days who would rather call you and talk on the phone for hours rather than text you is very hard and I like that about him. He actually pays attention to what I’m saying.  Instead of sitting on the couch watching sports, we take long walks on the beach. God is so amazing and he has been so active in my life these past two years . I have experience so much growth through putting him first and always in my life. Just making sure I consult him first before making any decisions. It’s truly worth it to completely trust the Lord and just let him carry you. I want to end with this that what ever you may be going through or have gone through, just take something positive from the situation and just allow yourself to experience growth because the greater the suffering the greater the blessing.

Signed Tulip

Single Woman of God!!!!!!!! :)

Having been in a relationship for the past 7 years I thought I had found my soul mate! I thought I knew exactly what I wanted in a partner and I knew I had found it in him. Six months ago that relationship came to an end, and at first it felt as if I had been sitting on a chair and someone pull it from under my bottom without warning. I felt pain, anger, betrayal, confusion and the list could go on. I could have chosen to feel sorry for myself and wallow in my own pain and suffering. Instead with the help of my loving sister’s advise I got up wiped away the tears and faced the music. That music was that God had a different plan for my life and what I had taken from that relationship where blessings, strength, love and lessons that have prepared me for whats to come. Sure there were days when I thought I had been in a relationship so long, that I have no idea how to start dating again. It was then I realized that all along I stayed in my previous relationship only because the situation fit the frame of the picture I was painting for my life and all the years that God tried to pull me away from it I kept fighting to stay in it! See we get so comfortable from time to time in situations that’s clearly not good for us and though God tries to show us the way he wants us to go, we fight. One thing I didn’t want to walk away from my situation being an angry woman. So I took some time out with my Lord one day and just prayed about it, that I would use it as a tool to teach me more about myself and what it is that God wants for me. I asked for patience to wait on God to place the right man in my life and that I would be able to know the difference between when I’m  doing ME or  what God wants for me.

Signed Tulip

“If God’s Word holds the universe together, surely He can keep your life from falling apart.” – Pastor A. R Bernard

 

Signed Butterfly

NOT DEFINED BY MY CIRCUMSTANCES…

Recently I’ve really come to realize and understand that we are not defined by our circumstances. Our joy resides in Christ (The joy of the Lord is my strength -Nehemiah 8:10) and him alone. With him I can find joy and peace in any situation, in any storm. Crisis reveals our true character. The way we deal with our crisis definitely determines who we are. Sometimes we tend to give the “devil” WAYYYY too much credit! Don’t get me wrong, he is real and he does exist. He will try and has been trying my faith. But my faith is bigger than him. My God is bigger than him. I am bigger than him. I believe God takes us through things to lead us to a better place. I’ve seen it continuously in my life and in the people I love lives.  (God doesn’t give us more than we can handle- 1 Corinthians 10:13)

Philippians 4:13 “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”

The devil as no control over what happens in my life, the ultimately decision maker and Author of my life is Christ my Savior! Period ….

I witnessed a love one go through a car accident and her entire reaction to the person at fault and the entire experience was positive all the way. Praising God every chance she got. Thanking him with every breath she was able to take. I was in awe, not because I’ve never seen this, but because in that moment I was reminded of his Grace and Mercy that has brought us a mighty long way. His hands wrapped around us, his love pouring through our souls. God is awesome! (Genesis 19:19 Behold now, thy servant hath found grace in thy sight, and thou hast magnified thy mercy, which thou hast shewed unto me in saving my life; and I cannot escape to the mountain, lest some evil take me, and I die:)

In concluding I will say this, God is still the author of my life- I trust him and I love him. I gave myself away so he could use me the day I got saved. I took up the cross and I’m walking with him, side by side. If he endured pain and suffering from mankind here on earth. Why would I be excluded? It’s a big misconception that being a Believer requires our lives to be perfect. That’s a myth! Move on and carry on with your cross, no matter how heavy it gets. He will help you.

Be blessed and loved through Christ my Lord. 🙂 STAY ON THE RIGHT PATH, EVEN WHEN IT GETS ROCKY.

Signed Butterfly